Hi there. What a whirlwind the last couple of weeks have been. Buying a home and moving have been overwhelmingly positive and exciting things but also very stressful. There are so many moving parts and pieces. Most of the time I feel like I’m standing in the middle of it all wondering what to do next. It’s kind of like that too many browser tabs open in your brain analogy. 🙂
Between the actual move and not having internet and/or power most of last week, I ended up pretty much taking the whole week off of work so I there’s an added layer of work stress. It had me up at 4:30a this morning thinking about all the things that I need to get on top of, as well as anxiety about childcare for the fall so that I have a better balance with work. (I know many of you are in a similar boat.)
A reader left a comment on my last post reminding me to take a break from the boxes to take care of myself and that was solid advice. I was riding high on adrenaline for a while but my mom warned me that I would hit a wall at some point. Initially, I didn’t want to believe that but let’s just say that moms have a way of always being right. I am tired…physically, mentally, emotionally and of boxes, packing paper and bubble wrap.
There was a span of five days where my right lower eyelid was twitching and the only thing that seemed to make it stop was sleeping or practicing yoga. Pretty powerful example of the importance of rest and the value of deep breathing and mindful movement to calm the nervous system. As much as I desire to be fully settled, super mom and killing it at work…reality is bite-sized pieces and doing the best I can.
I have made progress on the house front. The kitchen is done and Finn’s room and my room are both in decent places. So at least we can comfortably eat and sleep! 🙂
It was fun to bring Finn home for the first time. He loves his “new house” and spent about an hour looking at everything and saying, “ooohhhhh pretty.” (Even to toys, furniture and things that he had seen many times in the past, haha.)
We made a few final trips to the old house over the weekend. I turned the keys into my landlord on Sunday so that chapter is officially closed. I was ready to move on but still felt a bit sentimental as that house held many memories of Finn’s first two years. We both grew a lot in that house.
We are busy making our new house a home! Being with Finn over the weekend kind of forced me to take a break from unpacking and to be in the moment. I can already tell that we will share a LOT of meals together at this kitchen island.
And how is his bathroom nicer than mine!? The dogs were happy to oversee his first bath in the new tub.
Dorie + her crew came over on Saturday night to visit. They brought dinner from Brixx and helped me rearrange Finn’s room.
Finn had way too much fun playing with Snapchat filters with Dorie’s daughter. He was literally laughing out loud and it was so sweet.
And here’s an unfiltered pictured of me and my boy. You guys, these days are beautiful but they are also so hard. I need for there to be two of me, two times more patience and twice as many hours in the day.
No questions tonight, just thanks for listening. <3
Congratulations on your new home. It’s amazing what deep breathing and calm movements can do for you. I’m super impressed with how you manage everything!
Thank you Elisa. I’m managing it all very imperfectly but getting by one day at a time!
I’m so happy for you, Finn, and the fur babies. Wishing you so many happy times in your new home!
Thank you Kerry!
Believe it or not you are super mom. You being transparent and real and showing your human-ness creates space for him to be too. Even if he seems too young to really understand that, they are little sponges at his age and he is soaking in everything you model and learning he can be an imperfect human and he’s enough exactly as he is, just as you are.
Thank you so much for these words Melissa. It gives me a lot to pause and reflect on. <3
Well I was going to comment, but, Melissa, your comment is just perfect and brought tears to my eyes <3 Jen, Congratulations on your new home and amazing future there!!
Brought me to tears too! Jen, congrats on your new house! We are moving in two days (to Charlotte!) with our two little boys. I recently had a health scare and was at the doctor’s office this morning. All is ok thank goodness but it jolted me into a new way of thinking/acting. Little things that bug me – crumbs all over, messy house etc etc I’m not going to let them bug me anymore. Life is way too short and so many people are truly suffering. We are enough and doing the best we can!
Motherhood is a lot and moving is more. I have at times been down on myself for not feeling like I was making it as a Super Mom (mostly when the house is in disarray – which is not even important). When I am grounded enough, I realize that as long as I can continue to let go of whatever I need to do that I have the energy to be present and happy with my little guy, I’m doing a “super enough” job.
Congratulations on your new home!
I hear ya on feeling like you need two of you to get everything done. My twin sons are quite a bit older than Finn — 8.5 years old and in third grade — and I still feel that way often. Esp. now, while I am juggling my (sometimes demanding) full-time job with coordinating their return to school 100% via remote learning.
Never enough hours in the day for everything! But we just keep slogging through.
I love the bathtub pic with the dogs supervising! Never a dull moment!
Ah loved this post! So good to see you guys making your new house a home!
We moved recently too. It’s hard to believe, but you WILL get settled. Let it happen when it happens. No need to push yourself too hard. 🙂