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Stop saying I don’t know.

Weekend in photos…


I had to work on Saturday morning but it was pretty awesome. 1) Metro CrossFit was rocking and we had a great group for our morning classes with lots of new faces. 2) These sweet puppies were there overseeing the WOD!


No really, every time people ran out of the doors to do the running portion of the WOD the puppies went crazy barking. And then they passed out. CrossFit is tough stuff!


I baked strawberry muffins but they were a fail. They didn’t taste like anything really. Bummer.


Yogi wedding on Saturday night.


Wedding red velvet cupcakes.


Green smoothie and tasteless strawberry muffin breakfast prior to teaching Sunday morning yoga. Today’s class focused on STOPPING the “I don’t know what to do.” I played an excerpt from The Firestarter Sessions and challenged my class to become aware in the next few days of “I don’t know” and rephrasing it to “I’ll figure it out.”


I am the WORST about “I don’t know’s.” From things as simple as what I want to eat or what yoga class I want to take all the way to the big life stuff. This is a cycle I definitely want to work to break. It doesn’t feel good to hang out in the I don’t know, in between, constant questioning, what if, should have zone.


Post yoga brunch was a chicken salad plate.


And I had to snag a bite of these nutella crepes. Yum!

Are you a constant “I don’t know-er?” If so, leave a comment on the post and tell me if you want to change this. I’ll pick one winner and send you an e-book of The Firestarter Sessions.

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  • Rebecca P. June 9, 2013, 1:30 pm

    I am terrible at making decisions and now I am in the process of starting to apply and choose a college to attend for the next 4 years of my life!

  • KM June 9, 2013, 1:33 pm

    I am terrible at making decisions. I’m at a huge crossroads in my life – I just quit my job and am trying to decide between moving to 3 other places (all in different states) or staying where I am. And I have NO idea what to do. : /

  • Rachel J June 9, 2013, 1:37 pm

    Hi Jen! This is my first time commenting, but I’m a loyal reader :). I am the queen of indecision. It’s a horrible habit I’m trying desperately to break. I overanalyze everything- from food to big life decisions. My husband and I are currently in the “I don’t know” zone about our jobs, which is quite stressful. Bleh. Thanks for being so open with your life. It helps to know I’m not the only one with these feelings!

  • Julia June 9, 2013, 1:45 pm

    Yes, I can really relate to this. I am constantly indecisive and always have been. when I was a kid my dad started ordering two of whatever he got at restaurants since I always regretted my choice 🙂 As an adult I struggle with accepting uncertainty and this currently applies to my career. I work in a demanding finance job but long to follow my passion of healthy living full time. I spend so much time wondering what to do- go to business school, become a fitness teacher ( or both), or stay on my current path. Yoga is the one time I feel that I am truly exactly where I should be. I’ll keep this affirmative motto to ‘figure it out’ in mind. Thanks Jen

  • Tina June 9, 2013, 2:16 pm

    Unfortunately, I am definitely an “I don’t know” kind of person (especially when it comes to deciding what to eat!! haha). But really, I have a lot of big decisions to make in the next two years about my career and future, and I need to evolve from “not knowing” to “figuring it out.”

  • Lauren June 9, 2013, 2:17 pm

    yep, this is me! i can never make a decision and when i finally do, i spend an eternity over-analyzing it. help please!

  • Rachel June 9, 2013, 2:27 pm

    I “I don’t know” a lot largely because my life is so unstructured right now, which makes it difficult to make decisions and stick to them without waffling back and forth. It just gets tiring having to decide every moment of every day!

  • Charlotte June 9, 2013, 3:21 pm

    This post really hit home – For decisions that are really important and will significantly alter the way I live my life for a period of time (job and educational path) I am the most indecisive person. I go back and forth thinking of the pros and cons of each decision until my brain feels like combusting. I have been trying to work on this indecisiveness by not stopping myself from thinking through decisions but allowing my gut response to lead the way. In the end, it is what it is!

  • McRae June 9, 2013, 4:16 pm

    Indecisive is my middle name! I don’t know if it stems from not wanting to make a decision, or if I just want other people to be happy with my decision. Either way, I definitely want to make life more simple by not making decisions so difficult 🙂

  • Anne Marie June 9, 2013, 4:22 pm

    I’m in the MIDST of this issue with my 15 year old daughter who says I don’t know to EVERYTHING!! I have been pointing it out so much that she starts to cringe as the words I don’t… come out of her mouth. At least she’s recognizing it 🙂 I want to start now to make sure she is a strong woman who can make a decision or ‘I’ll figure it out!” Thanks so much for this post !!

  • Ali June 9, 2013, 4:25 pm

    This post is so relevant to me right now. I am someone who used to defer decision making to my e when we were in a relationship. And crazily enough, he would always so “we’ll figure it out” – exact wording. He never stressed but just knew it was something that could be figured out. Instead I stress and practically to the point of paralysis. Not Good.

    Anyway, I am no longer that person who lets someone else take charge because right now it’s just me and it has been an incredible and empowering journey to get to the place where I can just know that I got this.

    BTW, LOVE, love, LOVE those beautiful pups. So adorbs. 🙂

  • Lauren June 9, 2013, 7:13 pm

    I have been trying to find the end of my “I don’t know” stage for far too many years. This week I am going to rephrase…I’ll see where it takes me.

  • Katie M June 9, 2013, 7:17 pm

    I am an analyzer of all options, so when I have to make a decision, I go into research mode. Then I get paralyzed by all of the information, and I will sometimes just choose randomly in order to STOP thinking about it. I’d love to be able to break this cycle.

  • Natalie June 9, 2013, 9:21 pm

    I am terrible at making decisions. I look to everyone else for answers. I need to work on this.

  • Melissa C. June 9, 2013, 10:53 pm

    Haha I am definitely an “I don’t know-er”. I tend to question myself/my choices often and get critical. I would love to let it be and go with the flow more often.

  • Megan June 9, 2013, 11:05 pm

    I am a complete “I don’t know person” and it drives me, and my parents, nuts. As a college student with many important choices and decisions ahead it would be nice to not be so stuck in that “i don’t know” rut and own my decisions.

  • Jaclyn June 10, 2013, 12:09 am

    I used to be an I’ll Figure it Out person but in the past couple of years that has definitely changed. And it has completely put me down in the dumps…especially the past couple of months. The truth is I don’t think any of us know but I don’t want to be that person that keeps saying I don’t know…I don’t like to hear it when I say it! Thanks for this post…I am going to stop saying I Don’t Know…even if it’s only to myself in my head 🙂

  • Pam June 10, 2013, 7:00 am

    Every time my husband asks, ” Where do you want to eat?” I ALWAYS say, ” I don’t know or it doesn’t matter to me.” I really want to change that!! I have a voice and I NEED AND WANT to USE it!

  • Joy June 10, 2013, 10:25 am

    I am unfortunately one of those “I don’t know” people because I’ve been feeling stuck for some time now. I got laid off from my job many months ago in a career I’m passionate about but I don’t think I’ll be able to find another job in the field because it is changing so much. So I find myself looking for other kinds of work to do and I keep coming up with “I don’t know.” I definitely need to change this!

  • Christina June 10, 2013, 10:37 am

    I fall into the “I don’t know” trap a lot with parenting – I doubt and question myself a LOT. I’m trying really hard to move into “I’ll figure it out”, but it’s definitely a struggle! Thanks for sharing so honestly about your life Jen.

  • Rachael June 10, 2013, 10:45 am

    Always a “Don’t know-er.” I didn’t decide what college I wanted to go to until one week before the freshmen dorm move in date at both colleges!

  • Lindsay von June 10, 2013, 11:02 am

    I used to work retail and we were encouraged to say “I don’t know, but I can definitely find out” or some version of that. that attitude is in my day to day life.

  • Emily June 10, 2013, 11:18 am

    Hi Jen, the fire starter sessions sound interesting. I have a lot of trouble worrying about what will happen in the future, and I am constantly trying to remind myself that I will figure it out. I don’t know what’s coming, but I’m capable of dealing with whatever it is when it does. I will definitely look into it.

  • Vanessa June 10, 2013, 11:58 am

    Yep, I’m a big “I don’t know”-er. Afraid of making the wrong decision, but also somewhat indifferent to many decisions as well. I think changing the mantra to “I’ll figure it out” would be very empowering.

  • Elizabeth June 10, 2013, 2:17 pm

    Do you mind me asking where you had brunch? I live in Charlotte and am in need of a new brunch place. That nutella crepe looks awesome! Thanks!

    • Jen June 10, 2013, 2:26 pm

      hey elizabeth – of course! cafe monte in phillips place: http://cafemonte.net/. also love terrace cafe and nolen kitchen for brunch.

      • Elizabeth June 11, 2013, 9:16 am

        Yum! Thanks so much! 🙂

  • Rachel June 10, 2013, 2:28 pm

    Story of my life! I am constantly “I don’t knowing.” I worry way to much about making the wrong decision, and it has really held me back from pursuing some potentially amazing opportunities. I would love to give the Fire starter sessions a read!

  • Parita @ myinnershakti June 10, 2013, 4:41 pm

    I never used to be an “I don’t know” person. But then I got married, moved, switched jobs, moved again, and know that in another 2-3 years, I’ll be moving again and most likely switching jobs (my husband is in medical school!). All of this change has turned me into an “I don’t know person.” Any and every question related to our future is met with that answer. I’m ok with this for the most part, but I feel like in a way I’m holding out on living life right now because “I don’t know” what our future holds.

  • Gina @ Health, Love, and Chocolate June 10, 2013, 5:32 pm

    I have never really given the concept of saying “I don’t know” much thought, but this really rang true with me. In my life, I feel like the phrase often is just an excuse for not figuring issues out as they come, which I know I can certainly work on!

  • tara June 11, 2013, 8:59 am

    Oh, I hate admitting how often I’m a “don’t know” ‘er. I feel like I have these amazing ideas that, if I’d investigate them, could break things open. But …”I don’t know”.

    I DO KNOW that you should make this recipe for strawberry lemonade muffins. They are the jam.

  • Ashley June 11, 2013, 10:11 am

    I live my life in “I don’t know” and also “it doesn’t matter.” The indecisiveness drives me crazy, probably my family and friends too! I definitely need to break this habit – your words are a starting point! Thanks for sharing!

  • Taya June 11, 2013, 10:26 am

    Oh gosh, I am terrible with letting “I don’t know” come out of my mouth or pop into my head. I’m in a huge transition stage: I’m getting married in 2.5 months, moving into our first house (to another state!), studying to be a personal trainer, and facing the fact that I will soon be leaving my job when I move…which means I have to figure out where I’ll be working! Even though I know these changes are positive, they’re also scary (at least I’m not scared of getting married!) and I use “I don’t know” WAY too much. How should we arrange our wedding centerpieces? I don’t know. What color do we paint the kitchen? I don’t know. Where will I work? I don’t know. How will I financially pull my weight in our marriage? I don’t know. But even as I say it, saying “I don’t know” isn’t productive and it’s just an excuse not to face uncertainties in life. What I do know is that I really need to work on it!

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