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You Do You: The Relationship Edition

I wrote this post almost two months ago and I’ve revised it at least 15 times. It’s been difficult to find the right words to adequately share everything…where I’ve been, where I am now and how I’m feeling about all of it…and also difficult to decide whether or not to open up about it.

Three and a half years ago I went through a separation and divorce.

At the time I was paralyzed by fear, shame, guilt and anxiety. Going through that life event is horrible enough as it is, it’s even worse when you have a blog where you have a history of sharing personal information and teach in your community. I had no idea how to handle the balance between maintaining a “public” existence through my blog and teaching while going through so much personal pain and grief…so I made the choice to simply not talk about it. I wasn’t ready.

It’s taken years of internal work and therapy to get to a place where I even feel comfortable talking about being divorced at 30. It’s not exactly the path I imagined myself taking and for a long time, I treated it as a stigma. The word “divorce” made my stomach turn every time I said it. This is actually the first time I have ever typed it on my blog. Being vulnerable is one of the hardest things in the world. (A big thank you to Brene Brown for opening the door to vulnerability for me.)

I have a tendency towards introversion and privacy…despite my love for teaching (it’s weird, I know). One of the most consistent items of feedback I receive from those who know me both casually and closely is, “open up.” I have a history of being closed off and it’s a hard thing to change. This isn’t new to the blog.

For the majority of my life, I was laser focused on doing things right (for many reasons I am learning to understand and deal with in a more constructive way). I strove for perfection and it was both inauthentic and exhausting. Because seriously, what is perfection and what is the “right path”? Perfect does not exist and everyone’s path is different. There are no perfect jobs, perfect relationships, perfect lives…all that matters is the best you have to give and what you can live with. My right path might look a lot different than yours and I’m learning to be okay with that. I am the only one living my life and the only one who knows what that feels like. Read that sentence again. As much as you think you know, no one knows what it feels like to be in another person’s shoes.

Remember the post I just wrote in regards to fitness and nutrition about “you do you.” That applies to life in general.

One thing that I’ve embraced with giving up perfect is that life is messy. I give my yoga students an analogy that life is like a road map. Some people are on the interstate. They breeze down the road at 70 mph and they are sure of both their route and their destination…checking things off as they go. Others (including myself) are on a more scenic route. We take exits, turn around and sometimes even get a little lost. It’s not right or wrong either way, it’s your path and it’s 100% the right one for you.

The dots on my road map have been all over the place and I’m going to tell you a little more about them.

Going through the separation and divorce publicly was the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with emotionally and I wish that I could teleport to you what it felt like. On top of my own grief and shame, I was inundated with requests for information on what was going on with my life and overwhelmed by speculation. I promised myself that I would NEVER go through that again. This is why you’ve never seen me blog about relationships and dating.

But that’s not completely sustainable.

Because I’m human. And I want to feel love, give love and receive love. I also love helping other people feel better and stronger. It’s why I do what I do for work. I know that sharing my story and being open will ultimately do more good than harm. I will tell you one thing I have learned to be true. We all deal with heavy things behind closed doors, whether or not we talk about them is another story.

Today I get to share with you that I am happy and I am in love.

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And I am engaged.

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And it’s messy and beautiful all at the same time.

Last summer I went through a pretty awful breakup after being in a serious relationship. The flood of terrible emotions that I felt after my separation came rushing back. I felt how I hoped I would never feel again. Breakups are not easy but with all of that pain came a tremendous blessing. It ended up being the worst and best summer of my life all at the same time. I spent five months completely on my own and it was painfully perfect.

I closed the door on my relationship and I moved on. I started a new freelance job at The Charlotte Observer (a huge thanks to the universe for delivering that at just the right moment), I left the yoga studio that my ex owned and took on my dream role at another and I sat with my pain. I didn’t try to ignore it or distract myself from it. I focused on feeling it, healing myself and getting strong. I started running again and trained for a half marathon. I can’t even tell you what that did for my head and my heart. I strengthened my bonds with family and friends. I was open, broken and ready for true connection. I have never felt so loved or supported in my life. I can look back on the breakup now and feel gratitude for it. I know without a doubt that it’s an exit I was meant to take. I got back on the road stronger than I have ever felt in my entire life and with deeper relationships than I have ever had. (I greatly credit Gabby Bernstein’s book Spirit Junkie for helping me get there.)

And now you’re wondering how I went from broken up to engaged. Like I said, the map is messy.

Over the holiday season, my ex-boyfriend reached out to me and asked if we could talk. During our time apart he had also been on a path of self-discovery and self-work and arrived at “I can’t live without her and I want to share my life with her.”

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Needless to say, it was a shock. I never in a million years entertained the idea we would end up back together. There was a lot of talking, processing and tears. I was terrified to open my heart but I also couldn’t deny love. I did so much work while we were apart on choosing love over fear, not letting fear run the show and understanding how and why I had chosen fear for so long (so, so long).

A big factor in never sharing our relationship on the blog previously was that I was only “half in” to protect myself. I repeatedly told myself and others that what we had was “fine for now but not a forever thing.” And he repeatedly claimed he was “never getting married.” We were two broken people putting up walls. Our new relationship is completely different than our previous way of being and more amazing than I ever dreamed it could be.

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We are both choosing love. We are both jumping all in. We are ready to create a life we love together and to share adventures. And he says, “I want to be the most flexible old people ever.”

Where do we (meaning me + you…my readers) go from here?

For the most part, things will not change around here. This will not become a blog about my relationship. Read that sentence again. As I approach the five year mark of Peanut Butter Runner in April, I am in major evaluation mode in regards to what I even want for the future of this blog. I have watched too many of my peers put their entire lives out on the Internet…jobs, families, babies…and I know it’s not for me. I love teaching yoga, talking about fitness, sharing workouts, posting way too many golden retrievers pictures and cooking delicious food. I’m good at those things so that’s what I’ll stick to sharing for now.

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One way this was presented to me by our couple’s therapist really resonated. It’s an idea of circles. He drew a graphic for us that made a lot of sense so I made a graphic for you. I have a very small inner circle. That circle includes myself, my fiance and one very close girlfriend. They get all the info and nothing is a secret. Then there’s a circle that includes family/children/other very close friends. Then there is a circle that includes friends, close co-workers, etc. The circle keeps expanding and as the circle expands, the amount of detail in regards to deep personal information decreases. The outer edges include groups like blog readers, students, people I chat with at the gym, people that read my book, etc. As much as I appreciate and value the outer circle, the outer circle doesn’t get the whole story.

Somehow this expectation has been created that if you blog, you must share every.single.last.detail about your life. I don’t share every single last detail about my life with a lot of my day-to-day acquaintances, why would I do that here? The only thing that I ask of you is that you respect that. This is my creative space and I want it to feel like a safe space.

So thank you for reading, especially those of you who have been around for the long haul. I know this is a complicated post but life is complicated. I am not perfect but I am happy.

{ 211 comments… add one }
  • 1
    B March 30, 2015, 9:57 pm

    CONGRATS!!!! So happy for you!!!

    • 2
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:21 am

      Thanks so much!

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    Michelle March 30, 2015, 9:57 pm

    Jen!! Congratulations!! I am sooooo happy for you, and I loved reading this! I’ve read your blog for so long, and my road to becoming a yoga teacher was partially paved by you (even though we’ve never met!), so this made me grin from ear to ear! I’m incredibly, truly happy for you.

    • 4
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:23 am

      Thanks so much for being a long time reader, and I’m so happy to have influenced your decision to be a yoga teacher! Grateful for your words.

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    Katie March 30, 2015, 10:02 pm

    So happy for you! Congrats!!

    • 6
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:28 am

      Thank you!

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    N March 30, 2015, 10:11 pm

    Congratulations! So happy you’ve found happiness 🙂

    • 8
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:28 am

      Thanks!

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    Shannon March 30, 2015, 10:11 pm

    Congratulations on the engagement! This was a beautiful post, and I hope your new chapter of life is everything you have ever wanted!

    • 10
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:29 am

      Thanks so much!

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    Chicago Jogger March 30, 2015, 10:13 pm

    I love everything about this post! I’m so happy for you 🙂 🙂

    • 12
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:30 am

      Thanks!

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    Tara March 30, 2015, 10:14 pm

    Beautiful post, beautiful story. you owe nothing to anyone. I’ve enjoyed your blog for many years; any time you chose to post a personal side story is simply a charming bonus. That said, i wish you nothing but the ultimate in happiness and joy with your man.

    • 14
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:34 am

      Thanks for being a long time reader, and thank you for what you said!

  • 15
    Stacy W. March 30, 2015, 10:14 pm

    I love all of this. Period. Thank you and continued joy. Cheers to the love, the darkness, the chaos, the quiet, the bliss, the messy…ALL OF IT.

    • 16
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:35 am

      Thank you so much!

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    lauren March 30, 2015, 10:15 pm

    Jen,
    I’ve read here forever (since the very beginning, really!) but rarely comment. After reading this, I had to click over to say CONGRATULATIONS! This is so brave of you to share. What an exciting time for you! Doing the emotional work is so hard, but the payoff is so great. So very happy for you and proud of you for going all in! You deserve nothing but happiness.

    • 18
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:37 am

      Thank you so much, and thank you for reading!

  • 19
    Ruby March 30, 2015, 10:19 pm

    This was very sweet, congrats on your happiness!

    • 20
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:37 am

      Thanks!

  • 21
    Emily March 30, 2015, 10:20 pm

    This was beautifully written, Jen. I am so happy that you have found happiness. You are such an inspiration to us all!

    • 22
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:38 am

      Thank you!

  • 23
    Jennie March 30, 2015, 10:20 pm

    Thank you for sharing what you’ve been through. I love your blog and wish you nothing but the best.

    • 24
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:39 am

      Thanks so much!

  • 25
    Salina March 30, 2015, 10:21 pm

    Congrats to you!! I love that you are “living” your life, that’s the only way to do it 🙂

    Enjoy!!!

    • 26
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:40 am

      Thanks!

  • 27
    Kaitlyn March 30, 2015, 10:21 pm

    First off, congratulations on your engagement! Second, I think this is one of my favorite blog posts of yours. I too have a tendency to be introverted and notoriously private so this post really resonated with me. Your quote about you living your life and no one else knowing what that feels like is such a great point and very well said. Thanks for such a great and touching post. Congratulations again!

    • 28
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:41 am

      Thanks! I love hearing how it resonated with you.

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    Kaila @ Healthy Helper Blog March 30, 2015, 10:30 pm

    So so so happy for you Jen! Thank you for sharing this with us! You deserver love and happiness.

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:41 am

      Thank you!!

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    Ashley March 30, 2015, 10:30 pm

    So happy for you, Jen! Love this post… Life can get messy but sometimes that mess turns into something very beautiful.

    p.s. I can’t believe it’s been 5 years! I can remember when it was a delicious food blog!

    • 32
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:42 am

      Thanks so much!

  • 33
    Allie @ Sweet Potato Bites March 30, 2015, 10:31 pm

    beautiful post! so glad you see you have found love and happiness once again. Congratulations!

    • 34
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:43 am

      thanks!

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    Parita @ myinnershakti March 30, 2015, 10:33 pm

    Congrats, Jen! I hope your journey together is filled with nothing but happiness and love!

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:47 am

      Thank you!

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    Amanda Bee March 30, 2015, 10:34 pm

    Congratulations on your engagement!

    I’ve always really enjoyed your blog and think it’s been a great balance of “day in the life” without too many personal details. I’m also private and totally understand and respect the need to set boundaries in your work. I don’t think you owe information about your personal life to anyone on the internet – some blogs share so much that it’s a little uncomfortable.

    Though totally contradicting that point, I’m glad you shared your story and thoughts here as they totally resonate with me. It’s hard feeling comfortable – in relationships, career, life – when my path always seems to be shifting. It’s good to hear that someone so successful has had the same experience.

    • 38
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:48 am

      Thank you so much!

  • 39
    Kiki March 30, 2015, 10:35 pm

    Congratulations! So happy for you. Wishing you all the best!!

    • 40
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:49 am

      Thanks!

  • 41
    Annie March 30, 2015, 10:35 pm

    Beautifully brave and moving post! Congratulations! Your blog has truly improved and changed my life and I only found it a few months ago…. Thank you for all you do…you deserve all the happiness in the world!!

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:49 am

      Thank YOU!

  • 43
    Brynn March 30, 2015, 10:36 pm

    Congratulations!!

    • 44
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:50 am

      Thanks!

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    Kristen March 30, 2015, 10:36 pm

    Congratulations!! I am so excited for you and know you deserve all the love and happiness in the world. Thank you for ,as always, writing so eloquently and giving your readers so much of you. I have a tendency to remain closed off as well and hide anything that I feel I may have “failed” at from others. This was both eye-opening and inspirational. All the best! xo

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:51 am

      Thanks so much!

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    MC March 30, 2015, 10:40 pm

    CONGRATULATIONS CONGRATULATIONS!!! Thanks for sharing! Great post! AND one thing I usually tell my clients. Think of life like a gigantic field with many possible roads and paths leading to it. We all eventually get to the open field where we want to be, but we all don’t come from the same direction. No right or wrong, good or bad, or perfect path 🙂

    • 48
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:52 am

      Thanks!

  • 49
    Catherine March 30, 2015, 10:40 pm

    Congrats! Thank you for sharing!

    • 50
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:53 am

      Thank you!

  • 51
    Melissa R March 30, 2015, 10:41 pm

    What a beautiful blog post! Thanks for sharing!!
    Congrats!!!

    • 52
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:55 am

      Thanks so much!

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    Kimberly w. March 30, 2015, 10:53 pm

    I respect your decision to separate your personal life from your blog life. Thank you for sharing what you were comfortable with. And I am so happy for you!! Congrats!

    • 54
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:56 am

      Thanks!

  • 55
    Angela Wilkes March 30, 2015, 10:53 pm

    Congrats. You deserve to be happy and if I need to examine the details of anyones’s life it will be my own.

    • 56
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:56 am

      Thank you!

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    Fiona March 30, 2015, 10:54 pm

    Congratulations! This was such an emotional and beautifully written post!
    I’ve always hated how the conotation of divorce sits so heavily on women.

    What a wonderful new chapter in such a mind / heart growing journey!
    Xo

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:57 am

      Thank you!

  • 59
    Lauren L March 30, 2015, 10:57 pm

    Oh Jen, I just loved everything about this post! Thank you for letting your readers in your happiness. Your vulnerability and your openness over the years have really helped me deal with some challenging issues in my own life. Thank you for introducing us to Brene Brown, and all of your yoga wisdom. I am so thrilled to hear you are embracing a messy life and following your heart without fear. Sending you positivity from Denver!

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 11:58 am

      So happy to hear that. Thank you!

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    Liv @ Healthy Liv March 30, 2015, 10:59 pm

    Jen!!! A HUGE congratulations on your exciting news! I know it’s a hard balance to figure out, but of course you should only share whatever you’re comfortable with 🙂 I’m so excited for you!

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:00 pm

      Thank you!

  • 63
    Chelsea March 30, 2015, 11:00 pm

    Jen,

    I am partying it up over here in the readers circle. I have been inspired by you so much over the years everything from trying my first yoga class to oatmeal to teacher training. Hearing you share your heart fills up holes in my heart. I understand being half in and yet loving full on still scares me so much. I feel inspired by you yet it again to do more and be more.

    Wishing you all the love this world has to offer and sending you a giant cyber hug. Xo.

    • 64
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:01 pm

      So happy to hear that. Thanks so much!

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    Lauren March 30, 2015, 11:01 pm

    Long time reader here. Beautiful post. However, I complete agree with keeping your private life private. You don’t owe your readers an explanation as far as your personal life goes. If someone disagrees they can just stop reading. Cheers to you!! And, congrats!!

    • 66
      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:02 pm

      Thanks for being a long time reader and for your words!

  • 67
    Sarah March 30, 2015, 11:02 pm

    Congrats, Jen! So happy for you!!

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:03 pm

      Thanks!

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    Tamara March 30, 2015, 11:03 pm

    Jen, congratulations!!! I have been reading your blog since the start and rarely comment but had to just tell you how happy I am for you. You are so inspiring and deserve all the happiness and love in the world! Go Do You 🙂 Xx

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:04 pm

      Thank you!

  • 71
    Kate March 30, 2015, 11:05 pm

    this is perfect! congrats. how brave of you to post this, I’m sure it wasn’t easy!

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:05 pm

      Thanks so much!

  • 73
    Jackie March 30, 2015, 11:18 pm

    jen, I’ve been a reader of yours for at least 4 years. I am over the moon happy for you tonight! Congratulations- this is wonderful news! You deserve all the happiness in the world.

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:06 pm

      Thank you so much!

  • 75
    cait @pieceofcait March 30, 2015, 11:22 pm

    sooo exciting!!! congrats. love this post. hey, life is messy sometimes but makes the best stories 🙂

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 12:07 pm

      Yes it does! Thank you!

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    cait @pieceofcait March 30, 2015, 11:22 pm

    sooo exciting!!! congrats. love this post. hey, life is messy sometimes but makes the best stories 🙂

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      Jen DeCurtins May 19, 2015, 4:20 pm

      Thanks!

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    JennyV March 30, 2015, 11:26 pm

    Life is complicated and love even more so… but dang it, if it’s not all worth it!! It’s a beautiful thing to love and truly let yourself be loved. Yet sometimes we make it so difficult. (Why? We may never truly know.) Let your circles surround you in only the way you can breathe comfortably. Wishing you the absolute best!

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    Lauren March 30, 2015, 11:29 pm

    Amazing post, Jen. So heartfelt and many true words were spoken here. I definitely appreciate and value what other bloggers are and are not willing to put out there and it’s totally fair that you own your life story and its intimate details. Congratulations on your engagement!

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    Amber March 30, 2015, 11:38 pm

    I love your blog so much and this post is why. Congratulations! Wishing you so much happiness for your future.

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    Julianna March 31, 2015, 12:26 am

    congratulations! so happy to hear how happy you are! xoxo

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    Katie March 31, 2015, 12:41 am

    I, like many others, have been reading your blog for years and years (time flies!). Honestly, you are an inspiration to me in so many areas of my life. This post is so moving and beautiful and commands respect. You don’t owe anyone any more information than you are willing to share and some things in this world are private and sacred. People have a hard time understanding that in this crazy, fast-paced world.

    You are an inspiration to me and so many others to “do you,” to push forward, to start new ventures, to value family & friends & yourself, and to open yourself to love.

    Congratulations, you deserve this so, so much.

  • 84
    Jessica March 31, 2015, 12:44 am

    I’m so incredibly happy for you, Jen. You are amazing. This post is amazing. You inspire me so much!

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    Kelly March 31, 2015, 12:57 am

    Not sure if I have ever posted before, but I wanted to say what a wonderful post this is and how brave you are for putting it out there. This really resonated with me and I’m sure many others. Thank you. And Congratulations!

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    Christy March 31, 2015, 1:04 am

    The visual of the circle resonated well with me. I have a small, solid group of family and friends who really know me and it goes out from there, just like you described. I train, teach, am in the community, at church, at events and know that my best version is vitally important, but I don’t share everything with everyone. I am so thankful each day for my husband; he is my best friend and confidant. May you enjoy loving your fiancé and caring for him, and, of course yourself. God smiles when he thinks of you. Congratulations!

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    Barbara March 31, 2015, 1:05 am

    Congratulations Jen for the engagement and for going “all in” in matters of the heart.

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    Anne March 31, 2015, 1:47 am

    SOOOO happy for you! Congratulations! I wish you love and happiness for the future 🙂

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    Lauren March 31, 2015, 3:01 am

    Beautiful post. Congratulations!

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    Michelle March 31, 2015, 4:33 am

    Wow. Your post read resonated with me. My dear sister went through a divorce which was so crushing; the relationship was not meant to be but divorce is so strong, sad, everything she never intended. When she met her now husband, actually a reconnected first love, they went through a similar break up due to putting up walls. Once those walls came down they were able to get to the place where they are now – happy, peace, love.
    Thank you for sharing this and do know that many people take the scenic route, probably more and varying types than one would expect, and that journey can be hard but worth it.
    Congratulations to you on your engagement and enjoy every path you take together, whether bumpy or flat!

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    Kacy March 31, 2015, 5:35 am

    Jen- thanks for sharing your journey in such a beautiful way. Love is amazing and wonderful and I’m so happy for you and your “mess”. I know with my recipes, the messy ones always end up tasting the most delicious! XO

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    Lauren March 31, 2015, 5:55 am

    Thank you for sharing and congratulations! Love your blog!

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    Faith A March 31, 2015, 5:56 am

    Having been through the entire gamut of emotions in a relationship, from complete happiness, to utter heartbreak, and then having to make choices only I could make (ie, no one else’s business), I can completely understand and empathize with this. I wish you all the best. Much happiness and congratulations.

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    Brittney March 31, 2015, 6:01 am

    Great post Jen! I am really happy for you and so glad to hear you are happy and in love :).

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    Erin @ The Almond Eater March 31, 2015, 6:20 am

    This is a truly beautiful and honest post–congratulations!

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    meredith @ The Cookie ChRUNicles March 31, 2015, 6:21 am

    Congrats Jen! So happy for you. Believe me, I understand how you felt about divorced at 30 – I was the same (with a son) and never expected my life to be where it was and how much it was about to change. My divorce was just awful, was a lot to go through but years later, has only made me stronger. I try not to share too much personal relationship stuff either but lately I certainly have, when it matters and offers my readers something to learn from/learn about me. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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    Emily @ My Healthyish Life March 31, 2015, 7:25 am

    I am SO happy for you! You both look so in love and happy and that is what’s most important. I see years of yoga retreats and workshops in your future 🙂 Congrats!

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    Emily March 31, 2015, 7:35 am

    Beyond happy for you! Wishing you and your fiance all the joy in the world. Thank you for sharing your beautiful, inspiring story. <3

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    Emily March 31, 2015, 7:36 am

    Congratulations! Thank you for sharing with us (it certainly explains some things, ha!). I’m a long time reader too and it makes me so happy that you are happy!

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    Melissa March 31, 2015, 7:59 am

    What a beautiful and courageous post! I’ve been reading your blog for a long time and although I rarely comment – I love coming here because you have such a refreshing attitude about fitness, food, and life in general!!! Congratulations!!! Im so glad you were willing to share your story ..and now your love and happiness 🙂

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    Erica { EricaDHouse.com } March 31, 2015, 8:03 am

    Congrats! Life is beautiful the way it all works out – eventually.

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    Amanda March 31, 2015, 8:07 am

    You write so beautifully. Congratulations. I think I speak for the entire Peanut Butter Runner community when I say that we are so happy for you!

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    Liz March 31, 2015, 8:18 am

    Congratulations! I am happy to hear this wonderful news. I don’t blog but can understand how tough it must be to decide how much to post to the world. I am just glad you keep blogging, because I really enjoy reading it!

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    Kat March 31, 2015, 8:23 am

    This post just made me so so so happy! Congratulations!

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    Rachel March 31, 2015, 8:27 am

    Jen, congratulations on your engagement! What a brave post. I have been a reader here forever (since the very beginning!) and am glad to see that you are happy. I went through a very painful break up last year, and spending the last year alone and working on myself has been the most important thing I’ve ever done. Much of this post really resonated with me. Wishing you the very best!

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    Melissa March 31, 2015, 8:41 am

    Congratulations!!! I had a similar experience ~ only we had been engaged and broke off our engagement months before the wedding. We got back together and got engaged again…and ten years and three kids later it was by far the best decision I’ve ever made in my life. Kudos to you for deciding to be open to love. Wishing you all the joy in the world, love isn’t easy to find so when you do, run with it without reservation or shame! All the best.

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    holly March 31, 2015, 8:44 am

    Congrats Jen! I am so happy for you! I have been following your blog since before your divorce and I have enjoyed reading about your journey. Life definitely is messy sometimes, I can certainly relate to that!

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    Nicole W March 31, 2015, 8:54 am

    I am a long time reader (but not commenter)- so happy you were able to talk about this, and very happy for you!!!!

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    Autumn March 31, 2015, 9:01 am

    Beautifully written. Thank you for your sharing. You are truly an inspiring blogger, one my favorites. Your posts are well thought-out, and contain substance. I wish you the best of luck, and look forward to future posts!

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    Callie March 31, 2015, 9:03 am

    Congratulations on your engagement!!! This post was perfectly written and well said. I’m happy for you and your future and have enjoyed reading and following along! I agree with you that your blog doesn’t have to share your personal life’s details (I’m very private as well) but I do enjoy your posts when you’re vulnerable because I can relate even though I haven’t been in your shoes. You always open my eyes to a different way of thinking with your writing and that’s why I enjoy reading because I feel like I can learn and grow as a person while also getting recipe and workout inspiration 🙂 Congrats again!!

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    Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine March 31, 2015, 9:06 am

    I saw this on Facebook weeks ago, but wasn’t sure about it all! Congratulations now though! XOXO

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    Julie @ Running in a Skirt March 31, 2015, 9:09 am

    Congratulations Jen! So very happy for you!
    I’ve been through a similar experience. It all workout out in the end 🙂

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    Rachel J March 31, 2015, 9:13 am

    congratulations jen! SO very happy that you’ve found happiness again 🙂

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    Anne March 31, 2015, 9:17 am

    Congratulations, and good for you:) And Amen to everything you said in this post, no need to divulge everything to everyone. So happy for you, enjoy your happiness!!

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    Claire @ My Life Cravings March 31, 2015, 9:20 am

    Jen, I am so, so happy to read this post. I feel so much joy for you and am so glad that you are in love, happy, and sticking to the validity of your personal road map. I wish nothing but the absolute best for you and your fiancé, and I think it is a perfect decision to keep your personal life personal. As a long time loyal reader I will always be happy to read what it is you want to share, and will never request more than that.
    <3

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    Claire @ Keeping Up With Claire March 31, 2015, 9:24 am

    Congratulations Jen!!! I’m so happy you’re happy because you so deserve it. I can only imagine the strength and bravery it took to publish this post and admire you so much. Thank you for being so open and honest and know that there are hundreds (probably thousands) here who support you and are just so happy to see you happy! I wish you and your fiance the best!

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    Megan March 31, 2015, 9:28 am

    Congrats!!! Beautiful and honest post.

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    Ella March 31, 2015, 9:31 am

    CONGRATS! Yay! Thanks for sharing the circle diagram. It’s helpful and very healthy!

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    Christin March 31, 2015, 9:39 am

    So very happy for you!!! It’s obvious by the way you look at each other that you’re so in love. And I laughed out loud at “being the most flexible old people ever.” 🙂

    Your blog content is so informative, inspirational, and honest. What you are doing right now is a gift to your readers, and we are grateful!!

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    Joy March 31, 2015, 9:43 am

    Congratulations, Jen! I’m so happy to hear that you’re so happy.

    You are not your blog, but I am happy that you share what you do with us. I love learning about your spiritual journey, your journey to find happiness, as well as your fitness journey, and of course your little ones.

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    Maria Revutsky March 31, 2015, 9:45 am

    Hi! Long time reader but I’ve never posted. Congratulations!!! Life isn’t supposed to be a straight path..its the detours that make it worthwhile. Great post and all of that is well said.
    Hope you never stop blogging about the things I come here for which is food, fitness, recipes and puppies!!!
    Wishing you all the very best

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    Stepfanie March 31, 2015, 9:48 am

    Hi, Jen.
    Thank you for sharing this wonderful news with your readers. I’m so happy for you!
    I can relate to your hesitation to open up. About 4 1/2 year ago, I ended a long-term relationship. We lived together and shared two cats. When we split, it was my idea, and as I sorted out the logistics of unraveling a shared life into two, I lived in his (formerly our) guest room for six weeks. It was gut-wrenching, and as I was about to turn 30, I felt the stigma of failing at my relationship. I was about to publish my first book, and I had to edit him out of it.
    The day I moved out, I met someone, and it was the kind of relationship I knew I deserved. From Day One, we were solid and happy, but I felt ashamed because of the messiness of it. I hid it from loved ones, “gave” my old friends to my ex and laid low for a few months.
    Eventually, like you, I realized that life does not follow a linear path, and love doesn’t fit neatly into little boxes.
    Eight months later, that guy and I moved in together, and we were married last January. He’s my best friend, and I love my life now. I almost gave it up because of fear, and I’m grateful every day that I took the leap.
    Love and light to you and your fiancé. You do you, girl, and keep living the life you love.

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    Cat March 31, 2015, 9:50 am

    Congratulations Jen!! I’ve been a reader forever, but rarely comment. I just wanted to say that I am happy for you and thanks for sharing with your readers. I’m not a blogger and never truly thought about how sharing personal feelings and relationships on a blog was from a blogger perspective. I do love blogs that open up because I feel like they relate better to the reader because you can understand them on a personal level. Thanks for sharing and I hope you and your fiance have a wonderful life together full of golden retriever love!

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    Emily March 31, 2015, 9:55 am

    Jen, even though I don’t personally know you, I am so happy about your engagement. I have been following your blog for years now and have read (and related to) many of your trials and tribulations. I believe that things happen for a reason and people come into (and go out of) your life for a reason. I wish you the best, as well as congrats on your engagement!!! 🙂

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    Linda March 31, 2015, 10:11 am

    I’m so proud of you for facing your fears and being so vulnerable. This post reminds us all that nothing is perfect, yet life is still beautiful. My daughter and I both follow your blog. I just had a conversation where I told her that I thought you had a special person in your life now. You just seemed in a much happier place. Also, your Friday night cheese plate didn’t look like it was for one person-haha. Congratulations!

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    Megan (The Lyons' Share) March 31, 2015, 10:16 am

    What a beautiful post, Jen! I’m so happy for you – for the engagement, of course, but almost more importantly, for being so honest with yourself about your emotions and going through such an amazing path of self-discovery. What a great lesson to all of us!

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    Kate March 31, 2015, 10:18 am

    Congratulations, Jen! I’m so so happy for you 🙂

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    Julia March 31, 2015, 10:24 am

    So very happy for you. I was engaged before my current fiance, and while I didn’t experience a divorce, I can empathize with “coming back” from feeling broken. I think many people can relate to that! It takes a lot of courage to leave something that isn’t working, just as it takes strength to be open to love when you’ve been burned before. I’m also a big Brene fan, and I like what she says about vulnerability in that it doesn’t mean shouting all your private stories from the rooftops; it means that certain people have earned the right to hear your deepest feelings and life details, and only you get to decide. So all your circles make perfect sense to me 🙂

    As a fellow yoga teacher, I often tell my students “Focus on how it feels, not what it looks like” — because I know too personally how easy it is to have a life that looks good but doesn’t feel right. Kudos to you for following your heart.

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      DkotaGirl March 31, 2015, 10:34 am

      I love the idea of applying “focus on how it feels, not what it looks like” to life, not just asanas. Thank you for sharing that!

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    AMY March 31, 2015, 10:29 am

    Congratulations and best wishes for a lifetime of happiness together!

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    She Rocks Fitness March 31, 2015, 10:30 am

    I have no words…just that I am so HAPPY for you and appreciate you being so honest and open. Wishing you the best in this new beginning! XOXO

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    Paula March 31, 2015, 10:38 am

    This is the most heartfelt, sincere, and “real” engagement announcement I have seen in all the blogs I’ve read. I’m sure all your readers feel lucky that you chose to share your story and your current happiness with us! Congrats on the engagement; but even more importantly, congrats on the hard work you put into the personal growth and self-awareness it took to get here.

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    Kara March 31, 2015, 10:40 am

    I don’t usually comment on blogs but felt compelled to on this one. What a beautiful post! We can all be more vulnerable at times. It is HARD to do- I struggle with it too. I am a long time reader here in Charlotte and enjoy the blog the way it is! You share what YOU feel comfortable sharing. You do you! Congratulations on your engagement!!!

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    Brooke March 31, 2015, 10:45 am

    Thank you so much for sharing this, Jen! I have been reading for years, and the posts where you open up like this are my absolute favorite. I am 29 and I actually went through a divorce around the same time you did and recently got engaged. I was also forced to grow beyond my perfectionist tendencies – and even more difficult, the notion that my life could look perfect from the outside. Like you said, keeping up that façade is exhausting and dishonest. I can’t even imagine how much that is magnified when you have such a large following on a public blog. My current relationship is messy at times, but it is real and vital and amazing. And I don’t have to pretend that it’s any other way or that I am anything other than messy and imperfect. I’ve realized that everyone who matters will still love me just as much – maybe even more – if I am real and genuine and open about my struggles instead of trying to be, or appear, perfect. As someone who has struggled down a similar, scenic path on a similar timeline, I have been so moved by the handful of posts where you have chosen to open up about your journey. They helped me along mine. I read Broken Open during my divorce because you recommended it. I felt less alone in my pain when you wrote about going through similar emotions. It helped give me perspective to see you write with such grace about such difficult things. I know you are choosing to keep most of this private, but I just wanted to let you know that what you have chosen to share has meant the world to me.

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    Linda March 31, 2015, 10:49 am

    Wow Jen…… I am in tears over here. Such a beautifully written post and the pictures are the sweetest. All the love to you and yours. xoxo

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    Allyssa March 31, 2015, 11:24 am

    I really appreciate how open and honest you were in this post. I love reading your posts on a daily basis and am I happy for you and your fiance! Congrats!

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    Shashi at RunninSrilankan March 31, 2015, 11:28 am

    Jen, I have been a long time reader and an occasional commentor on your blog; we’ve never met, but our lives have certain similarities – like you, I find it hard to open up about every aspect of my personal life on my blog – but, I am so happy for you! Congrats on getting engaged and congrats on opening up here!

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    Cary March 31, 2015, 11:38 am

    Mazel tov! Congrats!!!

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    wanda March 31, 2015, 11:44 am

    you had me at ‘i wrote …’ and i am in tears … you two make this world a more exciting, energized & loving place !

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    Nicki March 31, 2015, 12:03 pm

    Congratulations!! This is wonderful and makes me so happy. Life IS messy and ridiculous and crazy but each life is OUR own to live. Thank you so very much for this beautiful post and for sharing!

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    Julie March 31, 2015, 12:05 pm

    HUGE congratulations!!! SO happy for you! 🙂

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    tara March 31, 2015, 12:24 pm

    congratulations ! yes life is messy ! it must be hard to be a blogger and decide how much to share. i imagine you feel like you want to hold back some things but at the same time try to be authentic and not what i would call “fake perfect”. i think its good to share some thing that make you seem human and help people relate and sometimes those are unpleasant things. other times its probably good to hold back. i commend you for the work you have done on not letting fear be your decision maker and can relate to your “half in” to protect yourself. I also have thought of life as a journey….i use that analogy all the time with my sister particularly with career. some people know exactly what they want to do at a young age so they are in their career and happy by 25. others not so much…they take the scenic route. who cares which route you take…you all eventually get to the same place. but i say…the scenic route has more laughs and WAY better stories to tell when you are old : )

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    Jen W March 31, 2015, 12:35 pm

    Congrats Jen!!! I am so glad you are happy! Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve been reading a little over four years now and your blog has been a great source of inspiration for me to follow my heart and try to do what I love even though it may seem scary. Fear of failure has kept me from doing it, but seeing you jump all in has really helped. 🙂 <3

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    Caitlyn March 31, 2015, 12:46 pm

    I absolutely love reading your blog and you are such an inspiration. This post is so beautifully written and when I scrolled down and saw the first picture of you and your fiance I immediately welled up. I am so happy that you are happy and I love everything you wrote.

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    Sarah March 31, 2015, 12:54 pm

    I am so excited and happy for you!!! I have been hoping this would come your way for a long time!!! You deserve this abundant happiness!!! xoxoxo

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    Tracy March 31, 2015, 1:03 pm

    You deserve to be happy!! Congratulations and best wishes 🙂

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    Nicole March 31, 2015, 1:06 pm

    Jen,
    I completely respect your desire to partially separate your personal life from your blog. The circle from your couple’s therapist is spot on! You do you!
    Congrats!

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    Steph March 31, 2015, 1:14 pm

    Jen,
    I have been reading your blog for several years, yet almost never comment. It must be so conflicting having so many people observing your daily life and feeling entitled to knowing everything about you, which is why I truly commend today’s post. I feel like many people were trying to pry the details of your relationships out of you out of curiosity, which I understand but also know could feel so intruding and anxiety-inducing. However, the way you finally responded to those underlying questions is remarkable. I feel like no matter how much criticism you received, every single person out there can relate to your experience, feelings and struggles and that is the best kind of writing. Even though I have never met you, this type of post makes me feel like I can relate to you so much and wish that I could talk to you and hear your advice on your journey of self-growth and acceptance, as well as how to deal with shame, guilt and fear of what you are supposed to to and feel. So please don’t let the fear of judgement hold you back from this type of writing, because it is real and raw and relatable and helps more people than you think!

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    Courtney F March 31, 2015, 1:27 pm

    YYYYAAAAYYYYY, this is me jumping up and down in my office, so happy for you!!!! I have been reading since ‘back in the day’ (actually close to the very first month of your first blog :o) and I have never been more proud of a person I have never met but still consider a friend. I went back and read a few blog posts from after you started yoga training and your writing (ie you have) has gotten so much stronger. While you are super-private about the details of your life, I believe you are more out there now than ever. Especially through the readings and lil sayings you show on the blog and they convictions you write about, they are telling of your journey. You found yourself, girl! Hold it close and run with it (and keep it as private as is comfortable, we’ll deal :o) So happy for you!!!

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    Rachel March 31, 2015, 1:36 pm

    How wonderful for you! It is such a weird balance, private/public life. Not one that is always comfortable or easy to figure out. I respect however you choose to share your knowledge, excitement, and passions. I appreciate learning from others thoughts and energy. Thank you for your blog. Way to be brave! What a great way to live!

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    Nicole March 31, 2015, 1:56 pm

    I knew it! I didn’t know you were engaged but something felt differently recently like you had someone. Just like it felt off this summer when you broke up and just like it felt something was up when you were going through the divorce. You absolutely have every right to keep whatever you wish private until you are ready to share. I like to go through the really personal stuff myself and when I feel things will end up ok then I share so I get that but I don’t think I am quite as private about some things as you are but we are different people who have gone through different circumstances. Keep doing you but for those that read the blog regularly, we do get a sense of something going on even if you don’t meant for it to come across. Just part of a blog I guess. Good luck and let life happen!

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    Caroline March 31, 2015, 2:00 pm

    Truly thrilled for you! It’s been incredible to watch you on your “scenic path” [love that, and relate to it myself], I have so much respect the strong woman you’ve become. I also am grateful to hear that the blog will not turn into a blog about your personal life.

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    Karen March 31, 2015, 2:02 pm

    I’m a grandma but I love your blog. My daughters are your age. One of them was divorced at 27 after a year of marriage. I was mad at her and embarrassed at first until I came to realize it was the bravest thing she couldve done. She is now remarried and pregnant with twins. She had a happy ending and I’m glad you have one too.

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    Kaitlyn March 31, 2015, 2:04 pm

    I’m a frequent reader of your blog, but have never commented. After reading this, I had to say congratulations! You do not owe any of us every last detail of your life, but you do deserve happiness. Just by reading your blog, you have inspired me to pursue my passions. Thank you for that and enjoy this time!!

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    Heather March 31, 2015, 2:04 pm

    Congratulations! It makes me so happy to read about someone going through such a similar journey as myself of self discovery and choosing love over fear. As just someone in the outer circle, I am so happy for you! 🙂

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    Kim F. March 31, 2015, 2:09 pm

    Yay!! I think I’ve only commented one other time, but I’ve been reading for years! I love that your blog seems like a perfect balance, not too much personal info, but just enough. This post was raw and beautifully awesome. Congratulations to you and your fiance, I wish you two the absolute best!!

    PS – and thank you for getting me hooked on yoga, it’s life changing!

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    Stephanie March 31, 2015, 2:40 pm

    Congratulations! Beautiful post! Big hooray for happiness!

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    Karen March 31, 2015, 3:17 pm

    Congrats! I always wondered who was taking all those pics of you : )

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    Jessica March 31, 2015, 3:33 pm

    Congratulations! This was such a great post! I think it stays in line with the theme/focus/mission of your blog, which to me, has always been wellness (be that physical, mental, emotional). I’m happy to hear that the blog won’t change, but that you are in a really good place! I expect lots of great posts coming our way now that you’re happy on all fronts!

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    Halle March 31, 2015, 3:44 pm

    Congrats Jen! I also struggle big time with issues around “opening up” in relationships of all kinds, so thank you for being so candid about it. Continue to do you 🙂 best wishes to you and your fiancé!

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    Janice March 31, 2015, 3:56 pm

    Amazing post. Congrats!

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    Lee March 31, 2015, 3:56 pm

    Congrats Jen!

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    Cait March 31, 2015, 4:16 pm

    I loved reading this. Thanks so much for sharing, you’re awesome!

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    Michele @ paleorunningmomma March 31, 2015, 4:39 pm

    Huge congrats to you! Reading this brought me through so many emotions and put me in a great mood, I am really thrilled for you and glad you shared your happiness with all of us 🙂

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    Michele March 31, 2015, 4:42 pm

    Huge congrats to you! Reading your story broth me through so many emotions and I could not be happier for you! Thank you for sharing your happiness with all of us and also putting your feelings out there. It’s so hard but many of us can relate 🙂

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    Linda March 31, 2015, 4:47 pm

    Congratulations on such wonderful new. You have come to be one of my favorite bloggers and I loved reading your story. Thank you for sharing.

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    Pam March 31, 2015, 5:00 pm

    Congratulations!
    This open honest beautiful post you have chosen to share makes me love you even more. Yes, life is messy but that’s the way of things. The truth is we all have stuff, how we choose to carry our stuff is what matters. I sense yours coming from a place of love and connection. I feel this post has drawn others toward their own inner healing. Beautiful. Thank you. Be happy.

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    Lisa March 31, 2015, 5:12 pm

    Congratulations Jen! I am over the moon happy for you. Thank you so much for sharing such a special time in your life. I have been a long time reader and have always respected what you share on this space. I am happy to hear you have found love and happiness. I wish you all the best in the future.

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    Laura March 31, 2015, 5:36 pm

    Jen, Congratulations on your engagement! I’ve been enjoying your blogging since back in the days of your cooking blog and postings on the Nest. While I don’t read blogs as often as I used to, I still really enjoy yours. I actually think some of this has to do with the fact that you will balance opening up and being honest while not posting a personal diary entry everyday. I’m glad you’ve found so much happiness, and I wish you all the best.

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    Steph March 31, 2015, 5:45 pm

    Congrats!

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    Katherine March 31, 2015, 7:03 pm

    Your reflections and insights are a breath of fresh air. I so admire your honesty and attitude of gratitude. You set an example for us all. Many blessings to you, sweet girl!

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    lisa March 31, 2015, 7:14 pm

    What an amazing post! Congratulations on your engagement, I’m so happy for you and your fiance. I’m also very private and my inner circle is very small so i completely understand this post. Everyone at my workplace can’t understand why I dont tell them everything and I can’t understand why they do!

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    Rachel March 31, 2015, 8:07 pm

    This post is so so perfect. Thank you SO much for your honesty, and passing on such important insights. Congratulations!! Wishing you all the happiness in the world 🙂

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    Kate March 31, 2015, 8:40 pm

    So glad you are happy! Congrats on the engagement!

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    Julie March 31, 2015, 8:48 pm

    Congrats!! Wishing you nothing but happiness!

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    Hayley@HealthyRegardsHayley March 31, 2015, 8:52 pm

    Yay! Congrats!

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    Carrie March 31, 2015, 9:00 pm

    Congratulations! Not only on the engagement but the changes and work you have put into yourself, and in turn your relationships.
    It is kind and brave of you to share your story! Thank you for doing so.

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    Melissa March 31, 2015, 9:11 pm

    Oh, such wonderful news! Thanks for sharing this with us. I think the boundaries you’ve set in your life are wise and beautiful. I wish you all the happiness in the world, Jen. Thanks for being such an inspiration to so many of us!

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    Jackie March 31, 2015, 9:19 pm

    Congrats! I give you so much credit for all that you do share on this blog, I’m sure it can’t be easy. I really appreciated everything you shared in this post. I share some of the exact feelings and concerns you expressed, and I’m slowly coming around to the same realization that life is messy-wish I had come to accept this a few years ago! I am a very private person, and often times do not share my feelings or experiences with co-workers or even certain friends, so I can completely understand how you may feel hesitant sharing every detail of your life on this blog. I think you need to do what feels right for you, and not worry about how readers respond. That being said, please feel free to keep sharing adorable pictures and stories about your two beautiful Goldens-I can’t be the only one whom they make smile!

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    Taylor March 31, 2015, 10:14 pm

    This is so amazing, congratulations Jen! I love reading your blog and am so happy you decided to share this with us! Great news and great pictures! Yay for love 🙂

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    Amy March 31, 2015, 10:26 pm

    Congratulations! I’ve been a long time reader but rarely a commenter. Your continues to be such an inspirational source for me, both in your fitness advice and words of wisdom. It’s great to see you in such a good point in your life – no matter how you got there. I think your personal boundaries set for the blog are very respectable, as long as you at least keep sharing pictures of Zoey and Sullie. 🙂

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    Chris March 31, 2015, 10:30 pm

    Bravo Jen. I aalso a very private person and can appreciate everything you shared here. I enjoy your blog for wha it is, and that is enough. Congatulations on your happy news!

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    Jamie Banks April 1, 2015, 7:25 am

    What a beautifully written piece. You are brave and your words will positively affect so many other people. Congratulations – the vulnerable you is the best you.

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    Heidi April 1, 2015, 9:12 am

    What a wonderful post, congratulations! You look very happy!

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    Lacy April 1, 2015, 1:04 pm

    I’m a long time reader and so incredibly happy for you! Congrats for doing exactly what you felt was right at every step along the way 🙂

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    Lacey April 1, 2015, 1:06 pm

    Love and respect this post. So, so happy for you!! Congrats!

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    Whitney April 1, 2015, 7:53 pm

    Love!!! I love LOVE!!! Congratulations 😀

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    Diana April 1, 2015, 8:55 pm

    Congratulations!

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    Shelby April 1, 2015, 11:35 pm

    I’ve been reading your blog for several years and I enjoy every post, but this one was truly inspiring and one that warranted a comment. I can’t begin to understand how hard it must have been to go through such a hard time in the public eye, and I commend you for being able to speak about it at all here. A HUGE congratulations on the engagement, and also a BIG thanks for writing this blog at all, you continue to inspire me and I wish you all the best!

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    Tracy April 2, 2015, 12:21 am

    So happy for you – and thanks for sharing your good news! I always hoped you weren’t eating all of those delicious meals alone! 😉

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    Ally April 2, 2015, 12:28 am

    Congratulations, Jen. Happy and proud of you. So good.

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    Lyndsay April 2, 2015, 1:24 am

    The first picture says 1000 words.

    You deserve all the happiness in the world. Thank you for sharing your messy happiness 🙂

    When you wrote about “choosing love over fear” struggle, that really resonated with me and got my wheels churning about what I want my future to look like, so thank you.

    Most of all, just thank you for the inspiration you provide here on your blog. Not to mention in your classes! I jumped up and down when I heard the fantastic news. Beyond thrilled for you both.

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    Lisa April 2, 2015, 7:12 am

    Congratulations Jen!
    I want to thank you for being such an inspiration to me. I went through my own relationship struggles and wondered sometimes how I would get through a day of work at an extremely high pressure job. Your posts were always a comfort as I navigated this new world. I’m still a work in progress but I too am finding joy again.
    God bless and love truly does win!

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    Laura April 2, 2015, 7:48 am

    Ive been following since the beginning, Jen, and have loved reading about your healthy transformation in so many parts of your life. So happy about this post and hope you continue to keep doing what you love whatever that looks like from day to day and year to year. Xo

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    Julie April 2, 2015, 7:59 am

    So happy for you two <3

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    erin April 2, 2015, 8:42 am

    Congratulations and thank you for your honesty! Life is messy, life is not perfect and it is so refreshing to hear that. All the best to you!

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    Alisha April 2, 2015, 8:48 am

    Jen, just so happy for you. I have been divorced for one year since this past weekend and I am still processing the pain and hurt and loss. It was so good to hear that you have made it to the other side, and it is really inspirational to me. All stories are messy – I am just happy you are happy and feeling love again.

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    Ashley April 2, 2015, 9:34 am

    Congratulations!!! I love reading your posts and completely relate to you in so many ways. I am a very private person and when you challenged yourself to say “yes” to more social outings/friends, I knew that was something I needed to do for myself. I have been reconnecting with old friends and having the time of my life doing so! I turned 26 in January and have found myself constantly questioning and comparing my path to others and it’s been a challenge. At times I feel very “stuck” in not knowing what I want for my life but I am choosing to trust that I will be able to look back at my life and see the dots connect. Congratulations again on your engagement and congratulations for investing in yourself and your happiness! Thank you for taking us all along for the ride.

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    kristin | W [H] A T C H April 2, 2015, 10:20 am

    congratulations! what a heartbreaking, heart healing, painful, beautiful process. wishing you both health, happiness, and togetherness. and cheers to not over sharing on the internet!

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    Michelle April 2, 2015, 9:35 pm

    I’m so happy for you! Congratulations!!

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    Terrie Reeves April 3, 2015, 12:37 pm

    I have never left a comment on a blog before but I was moved by your story. Thank you for sharing and for having the courage to speak your truth. Congrats!!! 🙂

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    Kristy April 3, 2015, 2:02 pm

    Jen – this is such a beautiful, real story… filled with pain and love. Thanks for sharing it with us. I’m sure lots of us can relate to different pieces – but it is always good to hear the part when things DO eventually work themselves out… even though at times it seems like they won’t. So thanks for sharing all of that story. I wish you lots and lots of love and happiness!! BIG Congratulations!

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    Brooke@SWEETNSWEATY April 4, 2015, 8:23 am

    Congratulation. I too went through a divorce 3 years ago and I understand how you felt. It was hard for me to talk about it for a long time. Now it is just something who made me who I am, and I am in a great loving relationship. Can’t wait to follow your journey and happy days to come. I always say “two halves don’t make a whole” when it comes to relationships. I am happy you both took time to be WHOLE before coming together as one whole team!

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    Cassie April 4, 2015, 9:13 pm

    Congrats Jen! Keep doing you, though I selfishly hope that means pb runner forever 🙂 still hoping to catch a class w you next time I’m in charlotte!!!

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    erin April 5, 2015, 4:19 pm

    what an incredible post, jen!! i think that you’ll help more people than you will ever know by writing this post and opening up. you are an amazing person and how wonderful to spend your life with someone who loves you unconditionally. wishing you all the love, happiness, and goodness in the world! may the best of your past be the worst of your future. xooxoxoxox

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    Lacey H April 5, 2015, 6:45 pm

    Longtime reader (and the hubs and I are overnight oats fanatics bc of you) -thanks for sharing–so much respect for what you do!

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    Kat April 6, 2015, 7:00 am

    Awesome and Congrats!! I’m such a fan of yours .. share what you like, keep the rest.. I’ll still be here, enjoying your posts!
    Best of everything to you!!

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    p November 17, 2015, 10:08 pm

    Jen,

    I revisited this post because I recall reading it when you first posted it & feeling happy for you that you organically found your way to a place of happiness that you, at one point, may never have imagined. I revisited this post because I too am going through a very unsettling breakup and need to know (read, hear, see, feel) that everything will be okay. Thank you for sharing your stories and experiences, you have been a wonderful influence & I admire your work and willingness to share all that you do with your readers.

    Sincerely,
    P

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