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On Being a Possibilitarian

I regularly share readings, quotes and stories from my own life experiences in my yoga classes. As a student, I personally enjoy when a teacher adds this “little something extra” so it’s something I try to bring to my classes as well. It’s so interesting to me how many times a student has come up to me after class and said, “that was exactly what I needed to hear today.” I love that because I think it points to how human we are and that we all go through similar ups and downs in life.

She turned her face towards the future and rejoiced in the possibilities.

Lately the idea of possibility has been on my mind a lot. While I’m most definitely a hand in lots of pots and go, go, go type of person, I easily find myself doing the whole hamster in a wheel thing way too often. I get so sucked into the daily grind that I have to remind myself to come up for air and ask, “am I grateful, am I happy, am I learning, am I growing, am I open-hearted, am I loving?” I also have to allow myself to take pause to think about the possibilities in the bigger picture life and work stuff.

I taught two classes on Saturday and shared the following passage from Journey to the Heart (<— love this daily meditation book) with my students.

“Think of all the possibilities for your life—for love, for work, for growth. Think of all the possibilities for adventure, for fun, and for service. This day, this week, this month, this year abounds with possibilities. Each task you have to do, each problem you encounter and need to solve abounds with possibilities. Your life abounds with possibilities. For a long time, we only saw some of the possibilities life held. We’d look at a situation and see the possibilities for guilt, victimization, sadness, and despair. We’d tell ourselves there was only one choice, or no choice, or that something had to be done in a particular way—the hardest and dreariest way possible. We’d neglect to envision the other options—the choices for joy, for making any event more fun, more pleasant, more enjoyable.”

Our lives are full of possibility. What I love about this reading so much is that it’s not only focused on the possibilities of the future but the possibilities that exist for us every single day. The possibility to find joy, growth and meaning in all the moments of your life.

Be a Possibilitarian.

The idea of being a possibilitarian is awesome. Possibility is a choice that you have to make. You choose whether you believe that life offers you possibilities or limitations.

If you need proof that possibility is possible for you, look back at where you’ve been.

  • For those of us who run, remember when you started running? Did you believe it was possible that you could get stronger and faster and that a 5K could go from feeling like a marathon to a walk in the park?
  • For my yogis, when you took your first class and saw people doing headstands and backbends, did you believe it was possible for you to one day be doing the same?
  • Gosh, look back to when you went off to college or started your first job or had your first baby. Those are all life experiences brimming with possibility and you figured it out.

Look at the history of your life and believe in how much possibility is out there for you to expand and grow (because you’ve done it so many times before). And then check in with yourself on a day-to-day basis and see if you’re being a possibilitarian or choosing to believe that life is limiting you.

Talk to me about how you view possibility in your life. Do you tend to be more on the side of Possibilitarian or Stuckitarian? Are you able to take a step back and find the possibilities for joy, fun and growth in all the moments of your life? 

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  • 1
    Melissa March 27, 2016, 4:31 pm

    Lol – at first my eyes saw “suckitarian,” which is how I’d describe my mindset lately (and that needs to change!) Or, more aptly, I need to change it. Thank you for this post and timely reminder!

  • 2
    Erin March 28, 2016, 7:09 am

    Beautiful post, Jen. I feel like I”m more of a Possibilitarian, however, it’s been a long time since I have taken time to explore that word and give some time to think about the things that I’d like to make possible. A great reminder to take some time to think about what brings me joy & what can be possible for 2016.

    • 3
      Jen DeCurtins March 28, 2016, 2:11 pm

      Thank you Erin. And I agree, you are most definitely a Possibilitarian! It’s all about allowing the space to get out of cranking life out to take a step back.

  • 4
    Lauren March 28, 2016, 9:22 am

    Its the little things that you add that have made your classes one of my favorites, and why I love bringing friends – they’ll get a great workout plus something to think about to enrich life outside of the yoga studio 🙂

    • 5
      Jen DeCurtins March 28, 2016, 2:10 pm

      Thank you so much Lauren! I’m so happy that you practice with us at Y2! 🙂

  • 6
    Kim K. March 28, 2016, 10:47 am

    actually really needed this today, thank you. i just went through a 2.5 year breakup over the weekend and i need to try to find the light through the darkness.

    • 7
      Jen DeCurtins March 28, 2016, 2:09 pm

      Kim – I am so sorry to hear that. Take really good care of yourself and give yourself freedom to move through the grieving process at whatever pace you need to go. Sending you so much love.

  • 8
    Pam March 28, 2016, 11:24 am

    I am definitely a Possibilitarian! I went to yoga school in my fifties. I now teach two 5:30am classes per week plus several private students. I am now attending yoga school to get 300 more hours. I see life just beginning for me! Full of possibilities! I think this is how you stay young! I’m 60 now and it just gets better and better!
    Thank you for such wonderful posts!

    • 9
      Jen DeCurtins March 28, 2016, 2:08 pm

      Pam – you continue to inspire me! I’m so glad our paths crossed and that we have connected. <3

  • 10
    Sarah March 28, 2016, 6:35 pm

    I love this post! Anything is possible if you put your mind to it. I have come so far this past year in terms of my maturity, health, and mentality and I know the future is full of amazing things.

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      Jen DeCurtins March 28, 2016, 7:06 pm

      Thanks Sarah! I’m glad you enjoyed it and I’m even happier to hear that it’s been a year of positive transformation for you!

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